So they have definately got to Acceptance on that old scale of response to trauma. Disbelief > Anger > Acceptance
Taken them 10yrs to get that far
Anyway only one comment that came close to identifying what their real underlying problem is.
I'm not about to help them get there as it is the one thing they are utterly blindsided to.
The word we have in english starts with an h and can lead very often to unmittigated disaster.
At their current rate of self learning i'd estimate it will take another 3 yrs before they even properly admit this Acceptance of who they really are now.
I love it - fucking hilarious









